12 Habits To STOP To Be Happier
Let’s talk about some habits to stop to be happier.
We hear a lot about the things we should be doing. Habits we should be adding to our plates.
But what about habits we should take off of our plates?
There are things we do and choices we make that are not helping us in any way.
Maybe we should focus on these things before we start making long lists of positive habits we need to start doing ASAP.
Working on stopping these habits will have such a positive impact on your life. It will make it so much easier to work on forming those new habits. Those habits that help you live a happier life. An all-around better life.
Decide which habits apply to you and then tackle those one at a time.
Here Are 12 Habits To STOP To Be Happier
1) Comparing
How often are you comparing yourself to others? How much time do you spend focusing on other people and all the ways their lives are better than yours?
We all compare from time to time. But it becomes a problem when comparing has started to suck you dry of all your energy.
That dang comparison bug will suck out every last bit of your joy and confidence if you let it.
Be sure to check out this article that is all about how to stop comparing yourself to others!
2) Putting Things Off
Procrastination is a pain in the butt.
How many times have you said you were going to start something tomorrow? Start something on Monday? Start something in the New Year?
We have all said these things. We have all put things off for so long that the thought of actually starting has become absolutely terrifying. It is almost as if we are paralyzed. Actually starting feels pretty much impossible.
Putting something off can feel good for about 3.2 seconds. There is that tiny window of relief.
But then we start to feel stressed and guilty and mad at ourselves for doing this.
Think about something that has been on your mental to-do list for a while. What can you do right now to take a step forward?
3) Being Negative
There will always be positive and negative aspects of our lives. A perfect life is not in the cards.
But we have a choice in how we react to things. A choice in how we choose to look at things.
Opening those negativity flood gates may feel good sometimes. Really good.
And it is okay to acknowledge and be aware of the not so great things going on. The struggles you are facing.
You can climb in the negativity hot tub from time to time. You can even sit back and relax in there. Just make sure you are not staying in too long.
4) Complaining (so much)
I want you to try something for me.
Go through your day and really listen for all the complaining that’s going on around you. And the complaining you are doing.
I bet you will be surprised.
I like to do this every so often. And it always reminds me that complaining has become an epidemic. It is going on constantly.
Just the other day I caught myself complaining about a red light taking forever. This was such a small thing. Why was I complaining about it?
There is not much we can do about the complaining going on around us. I am not about to tell a stranger they need to be more positive.
But we can all smile at someone who seems to be having a tough time.
And we can control ourselves. Try to catch yourself when you feel a complaint coming on.
Ask yourself if this is really worth complaining about!
5) Not Choosing
Do not just let things happen. Make a dang choice.
It is what it is. How many times have you heard this? These 5 words seem to spill out of the mouths of everyone.
Here’s the thing. It is not just the way it is. We have a choice. We have a say in our lives.
Can we control everything? Of course not. But these words are a great excuse for us to not have to make a choice or a change in our life.
There will always be things out of our control.
I challenge you to acknowledge your choice in each and every situation you are faced with.
6) Filling Your Time
Be intentional with your time.
Plan a day and keep track of how all of your time is spent. And I mean all of it.
Then really examine how you are spending your valuable time.
This can be a real eye-opener. I know it was for me. Let’s just say I spent more time than I care to admit on my phone.
Ready to learn how to be much more intentional with your time? Read this!
7) Talking Yourself Out of Things
I can’t do this.
Why did I even have that idea?
What’s the point?
We are able to talk ourselves out of things so quickly. And it is such a shame.
Honestly, I don’t think there is a guaranteed way to not have these thoughts pop into our heads.
Why not accept these thoughts as they come and turn them into a positive question?
How can I do this?
What can I do to help me with this idea?
What is the reason I want to do this?
Our thoughts and words are so powerful. Some days will feel like sunshine and rainbows and unicorns. And some days will feel more like a dark could. That is just life.
But try as hard as you can to turn those not so pleasant thoughts into something positive.
8) Not Taking Care of Yourself
Do you take care of yourself?
What do you put in your mouth? Do you stay hydrated? Have you checked on your mental health lately? How much sleep do you get?
Taking care of yourself is not a luxury. It is a necessity.
9) Underestimating Yourself
You are capable of so much more than you think you are. I guarantee it.
Think of something in your life that you thought you would not be able to do. But you did it. You flipping did it.
It is 100% okay to have some fear. Some anxiety. Dare I say even some doubts.
But you have to believe in yourself. Be sure to check out this article that is all about how to be more confident!
10) Letting Yourself Down
Have you ever set a goal and then not achieved it? DUH! We all have. Yep, every single one of us. We are human after all.
But what did you do after you did not reach that goal? Did you give up? Did you decide that maybe that goal is not a good one?
Or did you go back to the drawing board? Did you try to think about what happened and what you could change in the future?
We all need to learn to fight back.
Failing sucks. But accepting failure sucks more.
Check out this post on setting and achieving goals!
11) All or Nothing Mentality
This is a big one for me. I happen to have an all or nothing type of personality. And man oh man does it frustrate me!
It is okay not to know everything. It is okay to not have an exact plan.
Honestly, it is hard for me to even type those words. I love to know everything.
But this type of thinking can hold you back.
Waiting for circumstances to be perfect before starting something will most likely result in you never even starting.
Have something on your mind or on your heart that just won’t go away? Maybe it is time to get the ball rolling. Even if you don’t feel ready. Even if you are not sure where it will lead.
I put off starting this blog for way too long. I made up every excuse as to why it was not the right time.
Guess what? The right time does not exist.
12) Just Hoping For The Best
You can not just hope for the best. You can not just cross your fingers and hope the cards fall into place perfectly.
It is your responsibility to help the best come along.
Now, this is not to say that there is no room for hope. There definitely is.
We just have to make sure that we give hope a little sidekick. And that sidekick is called help.
Do you have any tips on habits to stop to be happier? I would love to hear them!
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