How To Be More Confident: 8 Extremely Helpful Tips You Need To Read
How To Be More Confident in Yourself
Confidence! Wouldn’t it be nice if this was something we all just had automatically? Yes, please!
No such look though. So we have to roll our sleeves up and take it upon ourselves to learn how to be more confident.
Confidence (or our lack of confidence) plays a huge role in how we live our day to day lives. It impacts most things we do. Most choices we make. Everything from trying to reach out and make a new mom friend to putting yourself out there and applying for that promotion you want so badly.
A lot of times, we talk ourselves out of something before we have given it a shot. I say “we” because I am right there with you. Right there second-guessing myself. My brain is coming up with reasons to run for the hills or back away slowly.
Caution. That word comes to mind when I think about a lack of confidence. We may have all these things we want to do. But our confidence tank is running on fumes which in turn can cause us to approach most situations with extreme caution. Too much caution. That fear that making any type of mistake is not worth the risk. Any chance of something not turning out the way we want is not worth it.
This is obviously not the ideal way to go through our lives. It can be so frustrating to know exactly what you want to do but have something standing in the way blocking you. Lack of confidence is that boulder standing in your way. Keeping you backed into your safe little corner.
You know what? I think every single person out there deals with these issues. On different levels definitely. But most people do not just jump out of bed every morning and shoot confidence rays out of their eyes.
These tips are not magic confidence pills that will make you the queen (or king) of confidence. But they are tips that have made a difference in my life. And I truly believe they can make a difference in yours.
Here Are Some Extremely Helpful Tips on How To Be More Confident
1) Negative Self -Talk
How do you talk to yourself? Really think about this and be specific.
What does your inner voice sound like?
Are you nice to yourself? Simple as that. Are you nice?
Or maybe the way you talk to yourself could be described as the opposite of nice. I feel you. I have those days. We all have those days.
Next time your brain is bursting at the seams with all that rude chatter, stop yourself. Literally say the word stop out loud. Stop being mean to yourself and say something nice. Change the mood going on in that head of yours.
2) Who is Around You?
Surround yourself with people that are encouraging and supportive. People that bring out the good in you.
I know this is not always possible. There will always be times when you will have to deal with people that are not riding the positivity train.
But you do have power over some of the people you spend your time with.
And I know that confidence comes from within. Boy, do I know this. I still think the people we let into our lives have an impact on our mindset. And our mindset has a direct correlation to our confidence.
When in doubt, dance it out.
Does that sound silly? For sure! But as silly as it seems, it can really help with your confidence and really just the overall way you feel about yourself.
My favorite music to use for my one-woman dance parties is pretty much anything from the 80’s. What can I say? I’m an 80’s baby.
We all have those songs that make us feel good.
Next time you need a little confidence boost, blast those songs that keep a smile plastered on your face.
This is not to say it is all about your looks. I know! It’s what’s on the inside that counts. Yeah. Yeah.
But how you look and how you feel are connected.
Let me tell you a little story. My best friend is very passionate about her nails. Her nails always look flawless. And she does them herself!
I was not very big on nails. Not really my thing. But one day she did my nails and holy cow did I feel amazing. It seemed like something so small. Just my nails. But it made me feel so good.
Your clothes. Your hair or make-up. These things can make you feel good about yourself. And feeling amazing about something on the outside can change how you feel on the inside.
5) What’s for Lunch?
OK. I love junk food! But feeling bloated and like I have a food baby in my belly is not my idea of a good time.
If you are in a funk or just feeling a little out of it, do a quick check-in with what you have been munching on.
Want to know my arch-nemesis? Chips. I love them and I hate them. That crunchy goodness is hard to beat in my book. But I never feel too great after eating them.
And let me make one thing very clear. I am not saying to give up any of your favorite unhealthy snacks.
I’m not a monster! What I am saying is to aim for a balanced diet.
And dare I say exercise should be somewhere on that to-do list!
6) Personal Mantra
Find a personal mantra that gets you fired up. Have a list of affirmations that make you stand a little taller.
Do you ever read a motivational quote and it is like an instant mood booster? I’m sure you have. And if you haven’t then go and look up some motivational quotes right now.
Words are so powerful.
I have so many different things I say to myself. Here is a simple one to try if you can’t think of anything.
I can do this! Say it again, friends. I can do this!
This can apply to so many different areas of your life. Work. Home life. Just making it through the day.
Maybe you will need to say it 548 times. So what! I can do this are words to live by.
Give out compliments like it is your job. Compliment yourself. Compliment others. I used to compliment others in my head. I would see something and think about saying it. But more often than not I kept it to myself.
Now, I really try to speak up and dish out those compliments!
And you need to receive compliments. How often do we just brush off a compliment? All the dang time. We say thank you except then we add a “but” to it. This is basically sucking all the life out of that compliment.
It will take some practice but train yourself to just receive the compliment. Don’t try to think of ways to make that compliment invalid.
Someone says they like your shirt. Say thank you. Not the thing so many of us do. You know what I’m talking about, right? We look down at our clothes and shrug as if we are wearing a paper bag. I can not count how many times someone complimented my clothes and my only response has been, “it’s old.”
Compliments are all about being kind. And I can promise you that being kind will make you feel better about yourself.
8) What are you Proud of?
Write it down. Really! Grab some paper and write it down. Put it in the notes section on your phone. The point is to at least get the words out of your head. Put them out into the world!
Focus on the positive things going for you.
We all know focusing on the negative is one of the easiest things to do. I can turn into a negative Nancy in about 2.3 seconds. I am constantly working on this!
Acknowledge all the good things going on in your life!
A lack of confidence can cause some small setbacks. It may cause us to not go out of our comfort zones to try anything new. We may keep quiet in situations we really want to speak up.
It can also cause some pretty big setbacks. It can hold us back from living the life we want to live. Reaching goals we want to set for ourselves but lack the confidence to do so. Miss amazing opportunities that come along.
Confidence will help you live your best life. You will know that you are a person of value. You have abilities and qualities that you are proud of.
You have something to bring to the table.
Confidence does not happen overnight. No finger snap and your confidence tank is overflowing.
But these simple ways will help give you a nudge in the right direction!
Have any advice on how to be more confident? Drop a comment and let’s chat!
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