How To Embrace Change: 6 Tips That Are Guaranteed To Help You
What comes to mind when I say that word?
What about the question of how to embrace change?
Let’s get right down to it.
This is all about you handling changes rather than changes handling you.
And just so you know, I am not a huge fan of change. I like those warm and fuzzy feelings that come from a comfort zone.
But change doesn’t leave me feeling like a deer caught in the headlights. I definitely don’t worry to the extent I used to.
And all this talk about change is coming from a very personal place.
I just went through a pretty big life change. My family and I moved to a new state with very little notice (hubby got a promotion). We said goodbye to everything and everyone we knew and moved to a place where we knew nobody.
This change shook me! It really did.
But these tips truly made all the difference in how well I navigated my way through.
I think sometimes change can be exciting in theory. But the follow-through is where the real struggle happens.
Many times change is out of our control. So we can’t run from it.
We have to be able to face it and embrace it!
Here Are 6 Tips on How To Embrace Change
1) Name Past Changes You’ve Gone Through
We have all gone through changes in our lives.
Probably quite a few changes. But when a new change comes around, we don’t always remember all those past changes.
That’s because you adjusted. Changes we have gone through become our new normal over time.
When a change happens in my life that feels really massive and really overwhelming, I find so much comfort in writing out a list. A list of big and small changes I have experienced in my life.
This can be a great little reminder that you are no stranger to change.
You made it through a change in the past so you can definitely successfully make it through a change again!
Make this list and look at it often. It will really come in handy on the more challenging days. The days when you feel like you just can’t handle it. It’s the reminder that you can.
There is just something about seeing changes written on paper!
2) Welcome All Your Feelings
Don’t dodge emotions like they are bullets coming for you.
Don’t play hide and seek with fear or sadness or anger.
Here’ s a little spoiler alert. They will find you.
Feeling scared? Sad? Angry? Excited?
Allow yourself to actually experience whatever you are feeling. You do not have to pretend everything is fine.
Sometimes you are going through something and it is not fine. You have permission to feel whatever way you feel. The feelings police aren’t going to come and give you a ticket.
Accept the struggle. You are allowed to grieve what was. Just don’t marinate in those feelings for too long.
Working through those feelings is healthy. Staying in those feelings for the long haul is not so healthy.
I also think it’s very important to remember that changes are not just this or that.
It can be both.
There is no rule on how many feelings you can have toward something. One feeling doesn’t take away or diminish from another.
Happy and scared. Sad and nervous. They can be happening at the same time.
There’s room! There’s room for all your feelings.
Don’t underestimate the power of just letting your feelings breathe.
3) Put a Spotlight on Happiness
Write down new things that could come from this change.
This is about finding the good. More specifically, finding the good during a challenging time.
Emphasize the good. This doesn’t mean you have to downplay the rough spots.
This is all about doing a shift that focuses on the positive.
No shame in saying something is hard. You are allowed to have concerns. But I always like to bring it back to something you would add to the pros column.
Here is a recipe to use. Start with the good. Talk through the hard. End with the good. Create little good stuff pockets.
This comes down to shining a light on the upside of a situation. Being able to see new opportunities that could be headed your way.
4) What Exactly is Changing
Write down what is changing.
This is a simple yet perfect way to give the situation less power. In your head, a change in your life may seem massive.
But take it out of your head and put it on paper. Not so massive anymore.
This is one of my go-to ways to cope with change. It’s how I ditch the dread and cut a change down to size.
Changes can fill our heads with fear. And if we leave the fear in there, it grows and grows like weeds.
You have to get some of that fear out. You just have to.
If you couldn’t tell, I am a big fan of writing things down!
5) Mindset is Everything
Change how you talk about the situation.
Change isn’t a bad thing. It just brings up fear. It brings up anxiety.
Hype yourself up.
Pretend you’re cheering up a best friend. What would you say to your bestie if they were in the situation?
Changing your mindset is crucial.
I can’t do this. This is too hard. This is too much. Saying these things to yourself is not going to help you in any way.
But we are humans and not unicorns that fart rainbows so we might say things like that to ourselves.
So what if we tweaked those phrases a little?
This is really hard and I’m going to make it through.
This is a lot and I will do my best to deal with it.
Those sentences sound a lot better!
I don’t want you to pretend everything is amazing. I don’t want you to fake it until you make it.
But I do want you to do a mash-up of the positive and negative things you are feeling. You don’t have to be bursting with sunshine or sitting in a closet crying.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is find the middle ground and go from there.
6) Plan and Prepare
To a point. Always leave room for a learning curve.
But a little planning and preparation always calm my nerves. Always.
When things feel messy or out of my control, this puts a situation back into focus.
And this step makes you aware of your choices! Being able to find a choice you can make is extremely powerful.
Change is one of those things that is unavoidable. Life doesn’t sit still like stagnant water.
Life is changing all the time.
Change is a process. In order to fully embrace change, you have to go through the process. Even it’s hard and doesn’t always feel great.
Changes can feel like an overload of uncertainty. Unstable ground. The unknown.
But change is also manageable. You can manage it. You can make it through.
And you can learn to embrace it.
Have any ideas on how to embrace change? Drop a comment!
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