How To Keep Marriage Fun: 7 Things I’m Doing

How To Keep Marriage Alive

Fun. Who doesn’t like having fun?

But let me ask you this.

Are you having fun in your marriage?

Let’s talk about how to keep marriage fun.

Because heck yes, fun is definitely a big piece of the marriage puzzle.

Remember those early days of your relationship. The days when everything was fun. Excitement happened easily and regularly.

You were falling in love and going on dates and trying new things. That was the life!

What can I say? I love a good old reminiscing session.

Over time though, the concept of fun can become more of a background singer. Like an actor that has a 2-minute role in that show.

Let’s be real here. There’s quite a bit about adult life that would not necessarily be categorized as fun.

We have to work and pay the bills and keep the house clean. Oh, and keep the kids alive.

Rinse and repeat, right?!

Where does fun fit in?

It’s so easy for our days to run together.

And it is even easier for you and your spouse to become like ships passing in the night.

Ever been to this point in your marriage?

The point where fun seems more like a fantasy. Something that only happens in the movies. Not real life.

The other day my husband and I were making some family plans and I realized something.

My marriage was overdue for some down and dirty fun! Some fun that did not involve our daughter. And I do not feel one little bit guilty saying that.

Listen up. Fun is a necessity. It is necessary for life in general but also for your marriage.

But it is not always easy. We drop the ball quite often in our house.

The real key to having fun in your marriage is being intentional.

Intentional with the choices you make. And intentional with your perspective on the concept of fun.

Here Are 7 Ideas on How To Keep Marriage Fun

1) Date

OK, this is an obvious one, I know.

But do you consistently date your partner?

My answer to that question is not always yes.

Let me tell you something that has made all the difference in my marriage.

We started to rethink what date night meant. And one big conclusion we came to was that it did not have to involve leaving the house.

Now, don’t get me wrong here. I love it when date night involves leaving the house. But that’s just not always possible.

And more often than not we were putting off date night until we could get a sitter and run out the front door.

So it is safe to say that date night was not happening regularly. NOT AT ALL!

For the health of our marriage, this had to change.

Watching a movie with popcorn and candy. That’s a date night.

Having a bonfire and talking about the future. Also a date night.

Doing puzzles with a beer or glass of wine. Date night.

A picnic in the backyard. Yep, that’s a date night.

It’s all about making the simple special.

You will never regret making date nights a priority!

2) Flirt

Do I even know how to flirt?

This was a serious question for me. Flirting felt like something that single people did or people in new relationships did.

Not this married woman who had already snagged her man over a decade ago.

But long story short I was wrong.

Flirting is important. And it is easy and it’s fun.

Send a sweet or sexy text in the middle of the day. Love notes on the bathroom mirror.

Random butt grabs. A wink across the room.

Now, I know I said these things are super simple and easy to do. And that is true.

But it can be a little bit of a struggle to turn these small things into habits. Especially if it has been a while since flirting was going on.

If you have to set a reminder on your phone, so be it. It takes time to make any action a habit!

Do what you need to do to make sure you and your partner are doing some good old fashioned flirting.

3) Try New Things Together

Learn something new. Tackle a new project together.

It would be really fun to even make a list together of things you each want to try.

Trying new things is an easy way to beat boredom in a relationship.

And it doesn’t have to be big things.

My husband and I tried a new game this weekend and it was really fun. Just a new game!

Don’t underestimate the positive impact that can come from some of the simplest things!

4) Surprise

I think sometimes we relate the idea of a surprise with something big or extravagant.

But smaller surprises more often is what works well in my marriage.

My husband looks like a kid in a candy store when I surprise him with his favorite beer. And don’t even get me started on his level of excitement when he sees a cheesecake in the fridge.

There’s beauty in small unexpected things.

5) Plan Something

Planning is one of my favorite things to do. It brings me so much joy.

My husband may not be quite as enthusiastic as I am but he will still jump on the planning train every now and then.

This is really about ditching the phones and just talking.

And the best part is you never know where the conversation is going to take you.

There are times we start off talking about a new restaurant we want to try and that turns into planning a weekend road trip.

This is also a great way to get to know your partner better and find out their opinions on things you may have not talked about in a while.

Ask lots of questions and really listen.

This is not only fun but it will bring you and your spouse closer together.

6) Show Affection

Hugs and kisses are an essential part of every marriage!

A cuddle or even a quick pat on the back can make all the difference in your marriage.

Small gestures make people feel seen. It makes them feel important.

Make sure they are happening.

7) Compliment

Do not underestimate the power of a good old fashioned compliment.

Compliments make people feel good. Which also makes people feel happier.

And this will only do really great things for your marriage!

Life can be busy and fun. It can be hectic and hard and still fun.

Fun is not a luxury.

Will every single day feel like a party? Not likely.

But there is time every day for a little fun. Some days this may just be a few minute dance party.

But 3 minutes of fun is better than nothing!

Have any tips on how to keep marriage fun? Drop a comment!

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