How To Start Loving Life: 9 Ideas To Consider
How To Love Life & Be Happy
Before we talk about how to start loving life, we must first go over something else.
Something that is extremely crucial in us creating and living lives we love.
Something that is maybe not as exciting to talk about.
In order to love our lives, we have to accept a certain concept.
And that is that loving our lives will never mean that every single aspect of our lives is going perfectly.
Every layer of our lives doesn’t need to be in complete alignment for us to give our life a thumbs up or passing grade.
This is tricky though. It is so easy to focus on what we may view as our shortcomings or any struggles we may be having.
These things tend to steal the show.
And it can feel like loving your life will just have to wait.
I am a huge supporter of accepting all the different facets of our lives but I am not a supporter of waiting to love our lives until we think we have everything the way it should be.
We can get so stuck on the “when” ideas. When X, Y, or Z happens then it will all be good. Then I can relax and be satisfied.
These tips are about not waiting for the stars to magically align before we live our lives, love our lives, and truly appreciate our lives for what they are now.
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Here Are 9 Tips All About How To Start Loving Life Right Now
1) Grab a Pen (and paper)
Grab a notebook (this one comes in so many pretty design options) and write down 3 things you love about your life. Your current life. As it is right now.
Write down a few things you are grateful for.
Basically, just write down some good stuff.
Doesn’t it seem like the not-so-pleasant parts of life or parts of ourselves are so easy to notice and point out?
It’s like when we have a blemish on our faces. That can be the only thing we see when we look in the mirror. That dang zit staring back at us. (I actually name mine…as if that helps me in focusing on it less)
Noticing the positive things we have going on or even small moments of gratitude can be difficult. But shining a spotlight on these things can really help us in seeing what we do have right in front of us.
For me, writing these things down also helps me immensely in putting things into perspective.
2) Get To Know Yourself Again
We are all changing and evolving continuously.
So that, of course, means our wants and needs change. Our interests may change. Our priorities change.
We are just big balls of change.
It’s really important to get back in touch with ourselves. A reintroduction if you will. This is especially true if we are feeling like our lives are in need of some tweaks or shifts.
Really sit down and have a conversation with yourself. (no shame in talking to yourself)
This is a time to be brutally honest about where you are in life now and what you want (or don’t want) for your life.
Act as if you are writing a dating profile. A no-fluff dating profile that actually shows who you are!
Do you know what so many of us forget to prioritize at all? Ourselves.
There are all these balls to juggle and the one we feel can be dropped is us.
It is such a struggle to give your wants and needs validity. But we must.
Everything can not be on the same importance level. That is not a recipe for a fulfilling life. One thing I know should be high up on that priority list is you.
Growing up, I saw women in my family being amazing and there for everyone. The more I look back, however, I realize those same women continuously put themselves on the back burner.
And now being in my 30s and having a family, I don’t want to willingly sacrifice myself so that everything around me is spic and span.
You are so valuable and important. You don’t need anything to justify treating yourself as such.
4) Set Boundaries
I am a people pleaser to my core. I spent so much of my life making choices based on the fear that letting someone else down would be absolutely horrible.
But here’s the thing. Most of these situations that called upon me to make a decision were not monumental or life-or-death things.
I was so caught up in my own fear that I somehow morphed these situations into something much bigger than they were.
Saying no or passing on something may never come super easily to many of us. That is all the more reason we have to practice consistently.
This amazing book is all about setting boundaries in our day-to-day lives. It really dives deep into everything about boundaries and the way they can impact and shape our lives.
There is always something to learn. About ourselves. Our relationships. The world.
Sometimes I get so frustrated with myself that 22-year-old me was not as interested in learning about myself.
These days I can not get enough information when it comes to the why and what of it all. Am I saying that there is some learning material out there that is sure to have all the answers to life?
What I am saying is that choosing to seek out information or find ways to learn more about yourself will always be a good choice.
I am a big fan of books for this. (here are some of my personal favorites)
Maybe you are more into podcasts. There is a podcast for everything these days.
Honestly, there are actually loads of social media accounts that provide heaps of helpful information as well.
Stay hungry for knowledge.
**Also, if you want to take it a step further in the learning department, you should check out Coursera. It’s an online learning platform that offers thousands of different courses on basically anything. You can even earn certificates and degrees.
6) Explore New Things
Life is not meant to be like the movie Groundhog Day.
It can definitely feel like that at times. But it’s up to us to shake things up from time to time.
Seek out new things to try. I was going to say seek out adventure but that sounds like something that would be said in a commercial promoting travel.
I mean, I’m a big fan of travel. Don’t get to do it much. At least not without my kiddos. But still a fan of it.
This is more about small things we can do.
Me, I am taking Spanish lessons right now. It’s an app on my phone giving me the lessons but it’s still fun.
I have been wanting to learn a new language for years but always put it off. There was always something else that seemed more important.
There are endless ways to try new things. A new dessert recipe. New haircut. Hair color. Take a pottery class. Or yoga class. Or dance class.
Try out a new coffee shop. A new bookstore.
Take a walk or bike ride on a different route than you would normally take.
So many possibilities.
7) Take a Close Look at Your Social Media Habits
I know I mentioned earlier about social media having some amazing content. And I stand by that.
This is more about mindless scrolling. Scrolling is totally fine to do. To a point.
It’s crucial to work to distinguish the point when scrolling is not serving us well anymore.
Also, curate the heck out of your social media accounts.
There is so much ugliness on the internet. So much drama. So much for us to get sucked into.
We have a say in what we are exposed to on the internet. (for the most part)
Be sure your social media accounts are adding to your life. Not taking away from or making you feel bad about your life or any choices you make.
8) Adjust Your Expectations
You will never be perfect. You will never be able to do it all. At least not very well.
Everything in your life is not going to suddenly one day fall into place and the rest is history.
This journey is…well, I was going to say never ending but that’s not true.
Yikes, that got a little morbid.
The point is that when we aim for perfection then we are setting ourselves up for disappointment from the start.
And we are doing ourselves a massive disservice.
We hear all the time about reaching for the stars and all that jazz. We see all those words or phrases that get us fired up and ready to take on the world.
Motivating words can be great.
But don’t ever let some catchy phrases make you feel like unrealistic expectations are the only way.
Smart, well-thought-out, or doable expectations are more than good enough.
9) Slow Down
Life is not a race. It can feel like that.
Especially with all these milestones that society can make us feel we have to hit. College and careers and marriage and kids.
But here’s your reminder that a cruise control setting is great for road trips but not for your life.
Slow down. Take a breath. Stretch. Take a nap.
One giant way to love your life more is to be more present every day. And that is what slowing down does.
Maybe you don’t have to rush to the next thing. Maybe it will be ok if that to-do list has quite a few things left unchecked. (we all talk about those lists being never-ending anyway, right?)
Look up more. Look around. Embrace slowness. It will serve you well.
Life is…insert any word you want and it will probably fit.
So buckle up and try your best to create a life you love. Will it be messy and beautiful and magical and chaotic and a million other things?
But no matter what it’s still your life.
Have any ideas on how to start loving life? Share them!
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