9 Marriage Tips You May Have Never Considered (But Definitely Should)
Give me all the marriage books. Give me all the marriage podcasts and TED talks!
I am all ears when it comes to any and all marriage tips!
How about you?
My marriage deserves to have the best shot possible. And yours does too!
I think one way to do this is to actively seek out tips and advice that are just out there waiting to be read. There is such an abundance of valuable information. So much good stuff (like this article!).
Picture a beautiful marriage buffet at your fingertips and you get to pick and choose what you want to apply to your relationship. How fun!
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Here Are 9 Must-Read Marriage Tips
1) Don’t Wait
This is as straightforward as it gets. There is no deeper meaning here.
Just don’t wait.
Don’t wait to show affection. Don’t wait to do or say something nice.
You can “should” or “when” your butt off but don’t.
Don’t put off things that you want to do. Don’t wait to have open, honest, and deep conversations.
With relationships and just our lives in general, we spend a lot of time waiting for the right time or the perfect time.
Here’s your little reminder that the right time is now.
2) Make Time
I’m not a huge fan of the word busy. I, of course, know people are busy. DUH.
But the word just gets under my skin a little. This may or may not be due to my husband’s excessive use of it.
Everyone is always talking about finding the time. Like there is an intense game of hide and seek going on and time is a dang good hider.
What if we stopped trying to find the time?
Try this instead. Ask this one question.
How can we make time for that?
Trying to find the time can get away from you real quick. You can easily get caught in a never-ending cycle of trying to find the time.
Focus your efforts on coming up with a way to make the time instead. Real actionable steps you and your partner can take to make the time.
3) Pay Attention
Let me run this scenario by you. Your husband is talking. You say “Oh yeah” and nod your head. He continues talking. You fake an interested face and keep nodding.
He then asks you a question that requires an answer and you freeze because you have been thinking about tacos 92% of the conversation. Please say this is not just me.
Paying attention and listening go hand in hand. And I am not always the best listener. Admitting this is a step in the right direction, right?!
But it feels good when you know you have someone’s attention. When you know they are actively listening to you. They are engaged. Not thinking about tacos.
Practice paying attention to your partner. Full attention.
4) Put Your Phone Away
This is piggybacking right on the idea of paying attention.
I have a problem with my phone. I fully admit it. Checking my phone is something I do way more often than I need to or want to be doing it.
And I know it’s not just me. Everywhere you look there are people scrolling through their phones.
We can all do better.
Which is more important? Phones or spouses? My guess is you picked your spouse. Unless you have one of those brand-new fancy iPhones! In that case, you are entitled to a couple of days of looking at your phone like it is the love of your life.
Your partner wants and deserves your undivided attention. Give it to them. And if you can’t give it to them you need to let them know.
I know personally, I rather wait to have someone’s full attention than settle for half attention.
Talk a lot! Typing that just brought me so much joy. Talking is one of my favorite things to do. Just ask my dogs.
But I think the more talking the better. Talk about everything from super silly to super serious and all the good stuff in between.
Now, I am not saying you need to stay in constant communication with your partner. No need to call or text 247 times a day. That may be a tad excessive. And then you might run out of things to say.
The bottom line is your relationship will 100% benefit from loads of healthy talking. Open and unclogged lines of communication are always a good thing.
If there was a word of the year, it could very well be gratitude.
Well, I have hopped right on that gratitude bus and I have to say it is pretty great.
What would happen if you were openly grateful for your spouse every day? How would it be if you found a way to show appreciation for them?
This makes you look for the good. We all know the not-so-great stuff is always pretty easy to find. Hello, socks right next to the dirty clothes hamper.
Try having an attitude of gratitude and see what it does for your relationship. You will be pleasantly surprised.
*You could even get a special notebook that is dedicated to noticing things you are grateful for.*
Life is full of so many things that are not very fun. There are some things you just have to do. Like, pay your bills, clean up dog poop, and figure out what that weird smell is coming from your fridge. Just me?
You need to be having enough fun to make up for those things that don’t rank very well on the fun-o-meter.
Enjoy each other. Every dang day. Have fun together. Laugh together.
Maybe in your relationship, this means having a dance party every night. By the way, if you have dance parties with your spouse every night I am so jealous. My husband is not a big dancer. But thankfully my daughter is!
Maybe this means tickle fights and thumb wars. Or watching weird videos of animals doing very weird things.
Adding more fun to your marriage will work wonders. Who doesn’t feel better after a good laugh?
8) Show Support
Encourage your partner. Be their biggest fan. Be their cheerleader.
We should be a safe place for our spouse and vice versa. It feels good to know someone is there.
There to give us a pep talk or lend a shoulder for us to whine on.
Don’t underestimate the power you can give someone by believing in them.
I had to put dating on this list. Simple idea but not such a simple thing to actually make a consistent part of your marriage.
Do not ever stop dating your spouse. EVER!
It may seem like a small thing. There may be other things that seem so much more important.
But dating your spouse is crucial for your relationship.
Go plan a date night right now. Seriously, right now. Plan it and put it on a calendar (this dry-erase wall calendar is so cool). Or put it on a Post-it or in the notes section of your phone.
Just put it out there so it is real. And then stick to it. Give that date night the respect it deserves.
And these TableTopics can come in handy for sparking some new and fun conversations on date night.
Your marriage is happening right now. Are you doing everything in your power to make it the best dang marriage it can be?
Take a look at your relationship and evaluate how things are going.
Dig below the surface. Get into the nitty-gritty of it all.
And if you come to the conclusion that your marriage could use some work then congrats and welcome to the club.
Dang, I almost forgot one more thing!
Check out Marriage Fitness With Mort Fertel for a deeper look at ways to help your relationship.
What do you think of these marriage tips? Drop a comment!
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