The Very Best Relationship Advice For Women: 7 Insanely Valuable Tips
Advice on Love and Relationships
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I am pretty excited about this. Relationship advice is my jam.
Relationship advice for women is even better!
This stuff is good.
Marriage changing. Double-check.
I have been with my husband for 13 years (married for almost 10) and I have definitely learned a lot over the course of our relationship. We have both changed and grown tremendously. Thank goodness for that.
I used to fantasize about growing up and getting married. Most of us do this, right?
But even on the day of my wedding, I don’t think I had much of a clue about what makes relationships work. What it actually takes to build a happy, healthy and lasting marriage.
The idea that it took more than love was a major blow to the heart for me.
The point is it did not take me very long to become extremely passionate about learning to thrive in my marriage. Taking in everything I could to make sure I was actively putting in the effort my relationship needed and deserved.
The tips I am going to share are recurring themes that seem to come up when my girlfriends and I are talking about the nitty-gritty of relationships.
And these little nuggets of advice have helped me build a marriage with my husband that I am pretty flipping proud of.
Here Are 7 Pieces of Valuable Relationship Advice For Women
1) Be Clear
Clear about how you feel. Clear about what you want and need.
Do you ever feel like your husband should know what every single one of your facial expressions means? I used to be so guilty of this. And still am sometimes.
How does he not know that when I look up, down and touch my right eyebrow it means I am feeling stressed. It’s so obvious, right?
I can not tell you the number of times my lovely husband has looked me right in the eyes and told me to tell him what I want. It seems so simple. Use my mouth to form words to express something.
But we all know it is easier said than done. Sometimes it feels like the easier route is to just hold things in. We all know this tends to backfire at some point though.
Communication is so vital to keep your relationship train running smoothly on those tracks.
Check out this more in-depth article on how to have effective communication in your marriage!
2) You Can’t Change Others
This can be a tough pill to swallow.
As women, I think so many of us want to fix things.
But we have to accept that the only person we can change is ourselves. This is something I am constantly working on.
I can get so stuck on the idea that if he would just see things my way then all would be right in the world.
Spend your energy making positive changes within yourself. This is the only method that will get you real results.
3) Have Your Own Life
Wait, we are still supposed to have our own lives?
This has been a struggle in my marriage in the past. And to be completely honest, it has only been in the past few years that my husband and I have both been in a good place with this.
Well, I should say it has just been in the past few years that I have been in a good place with this. My husband has always been a fan of having his own space and a life that does not revolve around me. How dare he, right?
Make sure you don’t forget that even though you are in a relationship, you are still your own person separate from that.
Starting this blog was something I did completely for myself. And you know what?
It has been one of the best decisions I have ever made.
4) Acknowledge The Good
We all know that every single relationship is going to have incredible highs and heartbreaking lows. But finding something good in every day will without a doubt improve your relationship.
It takes no time at all to find the bad. Heck, I don’t even have to be looking and I can find something negative.
This may take some time to get used to. It is basically retraining your brain to not be on the lookout for errors.
You know one super-easy way to find the good? Say thank you for something. Anything. Saying thank you will go a long way.
5) Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Comfort zones are nice. They are comfy, duh!
But stepping out of them is crucial for a relationship to grow.
Try new things together. Plan a surprise. Go on mini-adventures.
Do something your partner wants to do. And then grab the reigns and you choose something.
This will keep things fresh and exciting. Which we all know that boredom in relationships is very real.
6) Unrealistic Expectations
Let me make one thing very clear. I am not saying to set the bar low. Heck no! You deserve the moon, the stars and all the cookie dough ice cream you can eat. Ice cream may be one of the loves of my life.
But every single day is not going to be filled with grand gestures and loads of romance.
Ask yourself if your partner is doing things for you that may be going unnoticed.
And remember that an amazing love story does not have to be free of any rough patches. In reality, hard times are a great opportunity for growth!
7) Celebrate More
I was talking to a friend awhile back about her going out on a date night. Now, I may be the nosiest person ever so I was asking question after question about what they were doing and all that jazz.
I told her to get all fancied up and go out and celebrate! She looked confused. Which made me confused.
Here is the best piece of advice I can give you.
Celebrate your relationship more. Celebrate life more. It can seem like we are always waiting for a specific date on the calendar to allow ourselves to actually celebrate the best parts of our lives. The best people in or lives.
We can all do better in this category.
The most amazing part of a relationship is knowing there is always room to grow. And I think having that mindset alone will help you tremendously.
You have to change something for something to change. And change is always an option.
Have any relationship advice for women you swear by? Please drop a comment!
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