How To Strengthen Your Marriage

5 Ways To Strengthen a Marriage

When it comes to the idea of how to strengthen your marriage, there is one thing I know for sure.

There are no right or wrong answers.

Every marriage is unique. Every relationship has its own characteristics and layers.

This means there is no script out there that if followed exactly will result in a perfect marriage. No such luck.

But the good news is that perfect marriages are like Hogwarts. They do not exist.

(Side note: I don’t know if it is sadder that perfect marriages don’t exist or that there is no chance of me hopping a train to Hogwarts?!)

Anyway…

There is something that we should all do to build the very best marriage possible.

When it comes to any type of advice or tips, take what serves you and your marriage and leave the rest.

And keep in mind that happy and healthy and successful relationships do not happen overnight.

Strong marriages are not built in a day.

Time is your friend here.

Relationships can often start to feel as if the autopilot button got pressed. Most of us can relate to that.

Marriages can get stuck in a revolving door type of vibe. When this happens, it is crucial to take a step back and assess the situation.

That is where these ideas come into play.

Here Are 5 Tips All About How To Strengthen Your Marriage

1) It Starts With You

Entering into a relationship does not mean that you become less important. Being in a marriage does not require you to become less of a priority.

But that can happen.

We can start to lose ourselves little by little over time.

And of course, how we are feeling will impact our marriage.

How are you? How do you feel?

When we focus on ourselves, our relationships will benefit greatly.

Do the inner work. Work on becoming your best self.

It only makes sense that if you are thriving on a personal level then your marriage will grow and thrive as well.

These personal growth books are definitely worth reading.

2) Consistent Communication

Communication is one of those things that can (and will) have a positive impact on every aspect of your relationship.

Think of communication as the glue that keeps it all together.

Make sure you are having real and honest conversations. Open and heartfelt interactions. Difficult and uncomfortable talks.

Keep those mouths moving. That sounds easy, right?

But we know it is not that simple. It takes practice. It takes consistency.

Take a deeper look at communication here.

3) Quality over Quantity

This is all about time spent together.

Never stop dating. We have all heard or seen this idea. And I agree with it.

However, dating your spouse is not something that we can all make happen on a regular basis. At least not dates that involve leaving the house.

So, what do we do?

Cross our fingers and hope it happens.

Nope. We have to do what we can when we can.

Quality over quantity is key.

We find the pockets of time and we milk the heck out of them. We make the most of the time we have. No matter the amount.

Here are some at-home date night ideas you can try.

4) Think Small

The things we often label as small or seemingly insignificant matter. Those things are powerful.

Small choices. Small actions. Don’t underestimate the impact these can have.

Small habits can change the course of a marriage over time.

The truth is that while grand gestures can be amazing, they are not likely going to happen on a regular basis.

Don’t bet on your partner organizing a flash mob for you anytime soon. We are not in a Rom-Com.

Now, I’m not bashing the big stuff. I am just trying to put more of an emphasis on the little stuff.

So often in life, we wait and look forward to certain things. Holidays. Vacations. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

I mean, who doesn’t look forward to Christmas?!

But right now it is April. I don’t want to spend the next 8 months waiting for something.

A hug as your spouse walks out the door. A cute note on the bathroom mirror.

Bring your partner home their favorite coffee or dessert. (a surprise coffee is the way to my heart)

This really comes down to making a real effort to be present in your day-to-day life. Being present allows us to see and appreciate the good things. The things that could be easily overlooked.

5) Help is…

Not a bad word.

There are so many resources available to us.

There is an abundance of information that we can use to develop tools that will benefit our marriages for the long haul.

Am I saying that reading a book or listening to a podcast will make your marriage indestructible? Of course not. But it is so vital to be open to welcoming help in any form.

There are so many amazing relationship books. Here are some must-reads.

Therapy is also not a bad word.

It takes such strength to acknowledge when a situation you are struggling with could use a new set of eyes.

Happy marriages exist. Healthy marriages exist. Strong marriages exist.

They just don’t usually fall right into our laps. They are built.

If your dryer started acting wonky and leaving your clothes damp, you would do something to fix that.

Apply that same idea to your marriage.

We all have the power to build the really awesome marriage we want and deserve.

Have any tips on how to strengthen your marriage? Definitely share!

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