How To Fix a Boring Relationship: Try These Simple Tips
Are you bored in your relationship?
Yikes! It just got real.
But where do you start when it comes to how to fix a boring relationship? It can feel as if there is nothing you can do. I know from personal experience the pain of feeling like things are the way they are.
You feel bored. You start to overthink. Pretty soon your entire relationship is hanging by a thread. And boredom is to blame.
You know what happens a lot of times? We sort of brush this off. We may think that this is not that big of a deal.
And we start to justify why things are the way they are. But there is one big problem with this way of thinking.
It doesn’t fix anything. Things may go on okay for a little while. But there will come a time when this solvable issue becomes a relationship killer.
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Here Are 6 Tips on How To Fix a Boring Relationship
1) Date Night
Do date nights happen in your house?
Here is a better question.
Do they happen enough?
It is so crucial to carve out alone time for you and your partner. Time to be together with no outside distractions.
And I know this is not always easy to do. Life is going on and date nights are not always top dog on your priority list. It may take some effort to pull these date nights off. But it will always be worth it.
Your relationship and happiness is always worth the extra effort.
You have to let go of the idea that things are supposed to be a certain way. Our own expectations of something can actually be our own worst enemy.
Do not let social media or romantic comedies make you feel bad about the state of your relationship. Romantic comedies are my cup of tea. But are they realistic? Not really.
You want work toward a happy and healthy relationship that is fulfilling for you and your partner. Simple as that!
3) Use Your Mouth
Talk to your partner.
This may seem obvious but have you mentioned anything to your spouse. I know many times something is wrong on my side and I just assume that my husband should know. But here’s the thing. He doesn’t. Turns out, I did not marry a mind reader.
Our mouths hold a lot of power. More specifically, the words that come out of your mouth.
Speaking up can clear up an issue before it gets too out of control.
And your partner may be feeling the same as you. Even that simple fact can bring you two closer.
4) Little Things
Do not underestimate the little things.
Grand gestures are probably going to be far and few between in your marriage. We are not living in a romantic comedy, remember?
But those little things are where it’s at. A kiss on the cheek. A slap on the butt. Sweet texts. These things are going to get your marriage back to where it needs to be.
Those little things are the backbone of a strong marriage.
Check out these little things that make a big difference in a marriage!
Flirting is at an all-time high in the beginning stages of a relationship.
But after awhile flirting may take a back seat. Heck, there have been times in my marriage where I felt like I did not even know how to flirt. Not at all.
Want to know a great way to flirt. Compliments. If you notice something or think something positive about your partner, say it. Remember what I said earlier. Use your mouth!
Both people in a relationship have to put in the effort to make each other feel special and wanted. Flirting is a simple tool you have to keep things fresh and exciting.
BTW: Every single couple out there needs to read this book! SERIOUSLY!
6) Notice The Good
There is almost always something good to notice. When things are a little rough, you may have to look pretty dang hard for the good. But you can do it. Whip out that imaginary magnifying glass and get it done.
Relationships will always go through ups and downs. But things can take a turn for the worst when you are convinced there is nothing good left. Nothing worth working on.
Even during the hard days, point out something in your relationship you are grateful for.
Really do this! Please! An attitude of gratitude will change your relationship for the better and your life for the better!
Don’t just sit back and let your marriage mold into something that is not at all what you want it to be.
You and your partner deserve to have a kick-butt, rock-solid relationship. Do the work to create it!
Check out Marriage Fitness With Mort Fertel for a deeper look at ways to help your relationship!
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